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Yesterday I saw many , many autumn leaves on the way to New York to a Fall Festival at one of the ski resorts. The leaves I saw were even brighter than normal, because I was wearing rose-colored glasses. Literally. They were pink-tinted sunglasses that made the yellows and oranges and reds of the leaves almost appear psychedelic in color.
When I’d take off the sunglasses, the leaves were still colored, but they weren’t brilliant, they weren’t luminescent. They weren’t as impressive.
That’s what our lives are like without humor. There may even be wonderful things happening in our lives. We may be in a great mood. But if we stifle our humor, if we take ourselves too seriously, we only see our lives in a dull manner.
The problem is that enough time without the aid of some rose-colored glasses will make us feel dull. Lifeless, and lacking. And lacking leaves us losers.
What color are YOUR glasses today?
One of my friends is well aware of the tiniest detail when it comes to speaking. Lynda Stuckey, The Speech, Accent and Voice Expert at ClearlySpeaking offers weekly tips on vocal use, care of the voice, and other fascinating topics that someone outside her field may miss entirely.
In her last newsletter, she brought up the concept of Asking Questions with Downward Pitch. What? Don’t we always ask with an upward pitch??!!
Here’s what Lynda has to say about it:
“Not all questions are asked with a rising pitch inflection; many questions have a falling pitch at the end. This could be confusing to non-native English speakers. The way to determine if a question has rising pitch is to remember that “Yes/No” and clarifying questions require a rising pitch:
Are you going to eat with me?
When are you leaving for France?
“But a question requiring more of a verbal response often ends with the downward pitch:
What is your new address?
How are you doing?
“When there are two choices in the question, the first choice gets rising inflection and the second one falls:
Do you want pizza (rising inflection), or hamburgers for dinner? (falling pitch)
“How do you ask tag questions? Try the following sentence with both falling and rising inflection. Could it go either way depending on the context?
You are taking vacation tomorrow, aren’t you?
“How do you know which way to go with your pitch? In this case, it depends on how certain you are of the response.
“Read new articles posted weekly at my blog: http://lyndastucky.wordpress.com/
Sound Matters Blog: http://lyndastucky.wordpress.com/”
Thanks to our director, Roger Baker and producer, Cindy Jarzab for a great show, fun songs, wild story line and a chance to connect. Also thanks to our great audiences, who let nothing stop them from coming out to support us–not even the 6″ of snow that fell all night. You make our job easier, thanks for all your laughter as we “Remember When…”
Tonight I watched the Winter Olympics. The short track speed skating event was fascinating. Not only because it seemed reckless and dangerous, but because of the stragegy.
In one of the heats, Apolo Ohno was at the back of the pack for almost the entire race. Then, with a few laps to go, he seemed to merely glide effortlessly past all the other competitors.
Think of how humor-rich that illustration is. The event, like life, holds many reckless and dangerous curves. But when we have our strategy set on humor, we can be like Ohno.
We can appear calm and collected. We can conserve our energy, even if we aren’t in the lead. We are acting rather than reacting.
Because our vision is clear, we can see our chance. To move ahead. To leave the competition behind.
What is your seamless strategy?
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I’m reading the book, “The Starfish and the Spider: The unstoppable power of leaderless organizations,” by Ori Brafman and Rod A. Beckstrom. In Chapter 5, “The Hidden Power of the Catalyst,” the authors explain what makes a catalyst.
See if these sound familiar in the world of humor:
1. Genuine interest in others (listening to the other’s point of view)
2. Loose connections (breaking the ice with strangers)
3. Mapping (smashing ideas together and joining people together)
4. Desire to help (lightening the environment)
5. Passion (having something to say)
6. Meet people where they are (expressing, not converting)
7. Emotional intelligence (knowing when and how to do clean comedy)
8. Trust (in your self and your style)
9. Inspiration (awareness and listening)
10. Tolerance for ambiguity (”I don’t know and that’s O.K.”)
11. Getting out of the way
In his celebrated NBC sitcom Seinfeld, Jerry and friends became household names by highlighting humorous and relatable situations surrounding single life in New York City. In Jerry’s new primetime venture, married life takes center stage as celebrities, comedians and sports stars candidly comment, judge and decide who’s right and who’s wrong in real-life disputes between real-life spouses.
Revealing. Controversial. Downright funny. The Marriage Ref vows to look at relationships unlike anything you’ve ever seen on TV.
Hosted by: Tom Papa
Appearances by: Jerry Seinfeld, Kelly Ripa, Alec Baldwin, Martin Short, Charles Barkley, Sarah Silverman, plus more…
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