Read in Seth’s Blog (Seth Godin) about the difference between friends and friendlies. The friendlies are the ones you have a digital link to but no real connection. It’s the friend who will be more likely to want to buy from you. Because you do friendly behaviors toward him or her–that is, you write back, comment on their posts, and above all you never send a form letter!
Seth’s blog entry made me think of the role of manners in technology. It’s somehow not enough to just “Be nice” just like on dry land. In cyberspace the usual manners have been tweaked. Now it’s less about our polite behaviors, but rather how we are perceived by those behaviors (or by omitting those behaviors).
For example, if you choose to close off your photos on Facebook to comments, that may be a free choice for you. However, what do your viewer/readers think of you when they see that they are not allowed such free choice? Do you appear to them as insecure; you seem to think we would only comment negatively.
If you don’t respond to your @twitter posts that people write, what impression do you give people about you? Are you suddenly unreliable? Do you #FollowFriday those twitterers who routinely FollowFriday you?
Technology has leveled the playing field–at least in the field of manners and tact. The old excuse, “I don’t have TIME to do those things,” will not fly in today’s world. We all officially have no time for this stuff. But your consistent care to your friends and their posts, their comments, their ideas, their freedom of expression–will show that despite your lack of time, you ARE acting. You are being a friend. You know how to, “Get Your SHINE Together!”
and on this blog. Today’s Comedy Around the World segment travels to–WordPress. Humor and comedy are all about change, risk, embracing the unknown, creating something new, and, of course, fun. Sometimes the change we encounter in life is uninvited. Like the email from my Yahoo account that read I need to figure out how to convert one blog type to another. And sometimes there is a big risk. Like when I attempted to convert the blog, only to read on the page’s site, “Are you sure you want to do this?” But change can also be new and fun–like coming up with a new design, new insights, and more and more humor tips. So look for a big change in the coming days. And as always thank you for supporting live comedy, and “Get Your SHINE Together!”
I was planning on writing a three-part series about Humor and Massage Therapy. Really. But then I heard the news about Michael Jackson. And like any speaker or comedian would, I will state the obvious. Talk about our common situation.
Some of my comic friends are already writing jokes on Facebook and sending to me. Others are holding back. Maybe until enough time has passed. How DO you handle something like this if you are speaking? How did speakers handle the Twin Towers attacks, if they had to speak that day (like my friend Craig Valentine had to do). How would you handle yourself and your message in light of a recent tragedy that you and your audience shared?
This is where Humor enters in. Really. Eventually we will be able to laugh again. Maybe not about Michael Jackson–especially if you are related to him, or knew him personally. Possibly not about the Twin Towers attack, maybe never. But within our own personal tragedies, the good news is that we do and we can and we will laugh again.
So will the families of Farrah, Michael, Ed McMahon. We will learn how to, “Get Your SHINE Together!” because humor can heal.
“Feeling down, unmotivated or indecisive? Experts in positive psychology might tell you to â€œimagine the worstâ€ as a first step towards getting out of a rut. Optimists say that when you mentally review what could go wrong in a very specific scenario, you are more likely to consider solutions and feel prepared, ultimately reducing anxiety and enhancing your coping skills. The key to this strategy is to be specific. Avoid generalized negative thoughts like â€œmy life will fall apartâ€ or â€œIâ€™ll lose all my money.â€ Instead hone in on your worry in a very granular way and determine solutions or methods of dealing with each problem on a stand-alone basis.”
This excerpt from Victoria Colligan (founder of Ladies Who Launch) reminds me of Julie K. Norem’s book, “The Postive Power of Negative Thinking.” Some of us prefer to think the worst–that helps us to get rid of the anxiety and fear. The enemy is not negativity, it is this anxiety about the unknown.
Humor allows us to explore all our emotions–positive and negative. We can experiment, turn them around, turn them inside out. We can even make ourselves laugh.
To read more daily tips from LWL go here:
To add more humor to your life, ask me how to, “Get Your SHINE Together!”
While I was listening to the news on the radio, I heard President Obama joking at a media banquet. Now–I am all for people being entertaining. We all hate boring speakers. When someone is a funny speaker, they get our attention. They make us remember their points and their message. We like them! But they can become like the class clown.
Here’s what I mean: Right after the news clip about the banquet there was another clip. Unemployment is 11 1/2 %. Double digit unemployment. In the United States. It is the highest rate since World War II!!
Somehow the joking and laughter wasn’t as funny. Something was amiss. Just like when the class clown keeps us laughing but doesn’t know when to quit. He (or she) doesn’t seem to realize the teacher’s annoyance. Or that we have stopped laughing. He (or she) isn’t reading the audience. The context. The vibes.
I don’t want Obama to stop joking and being humorous. Never! He is a wonderful (and free) advertisement for me and my own services. But now doesn’t seem the time to see who can be the funniest speaker.
What do YOU think? Share your input. Message me on my fan page on Facebook. Fill out the contact form here at www.yourshiningexample.com Send me an email, with “Funny?” in the subject line. “Get Your SHINE Together!”
Some news about fellow cast member from The Kill Point on SPIKE TV, Michael McGlone: As of Monday this week, Michael McGlone was on location in Albuquerque, New Mexico, shooting an episode of Starz’ new hit series Crash. McGlone will Guest Star on the gritty second episode of season two. Among a stellar cast, including Dennis Hopper, Clare Carey, Ross McCall, Moran Atias, et al…the Oscar Award Winning Film inspired series has enjoyed exceptional critical and popular success. To learn more about it, and to hear some of his great music, check here: http://www.michaelmcglone.com/v2/default.asp
Don’t you hate it when you walk into a conversation where people are laughing. They explain their joke to you, adding, “You had to be there.” Wouldn’t it be better if everyone could be in on the joke? With situational humor, they CAN! This week’s Comedy Around the World talks Turkey. Istanbul, Turkey.
My friend and I went shopping for hair accessories. The shop seemed inexpensive, so we bought some earrings, hair things, and make-up. Later, our Turkish friends asked us what we paid for our purchases. They shook their heads in dismay saying, “We should have gone with you. The owners saw you were foreigners, so they charged you more!”
We weren’t in on this joke. We WERE the joke. It was awkward for us, awkward for our Turkish friends.
When we can make fun of a situation, we let everyone contribute to the humor. We save face, and we let others save face. We create a common theme–the funny situation. We can all add to it and build on the humor we create. Then everyone gets a good deal!
Thanks to my friends Lois and Zane, and Mountain Creations for the invitation tonight to meet Larry Thomas, a.k.a. the Soup Nazi from Seinfeld. If I could turn the picture around on Windows Picture and Fax, I would. Please just turn your head to the side until I get more info. Oh, and, “Get Your SHINE Together!” or else, No SOUP For You!
Don’t forget - The Samuel J Foundation’s Fifth Annual â€œSamâ€™s Summer Splashâ€ fundraiser is coming up on June 27, 2009, at 6:30 pm at Scott Township Pool. Tickets are only $5 per person age 4 and up (children under 4 are free) or just $4 per person for groups of 10 or more (perfect for sports teams, scout troops or groups). Refreshments, including KFC, games for the kids and music by DJ Roy Smith are included in the price of admission. There will also be a 50/50 raffle and ticket auction (including Steeler tickets!).
Proceeds from this event will support Samâ€™s Snack Wagon, a snack cart program for parents and children on the inpatient oncology unit and outpatient hematology/oncology clinic at Childrenâ€™s Hospital of Pittsburgh. Samâ€™s Snack Wagon was started as something tangible that could serve as a daily reminder for these families that someone is thinking about them, and that they are not alone. Many parents have said that when their children are discouraged about having to go to the hospital, reminding them of the snack cart lifts their spirits and encourages them. Sam’s Snack Wagon has received wonderful support through food and monetary donations from patient families, individual donors, churches and athletic teams, such as the Mt. Lebanon Blue Devils Soccer Team which has supplied the program with Gatorade for the past two years. Samâ€™s Summer Splash is a really fun way for the whole community to be a part of this program, and make a difference for these kids and their families.
For Summer Splash tickets, to donate to Samâ€™s Snack Wagon, or for more information about the Samuel J Foundation, visit www.samuelj.org, or contact Kelly Johnson at (724)693-9901. If you wish to order tickets via U.S. Mail, send a check payable to Samuel J Foundation along with a self-addressed stamped envelope to P.O. Box 75, Oakdale, Pa 15071. Write “Summer Splash Tickets” on the memo line. Please orer your tickets, or let us know if you plan on coming before the 27th so we can plan accordingly for refreshments. Volunteers and raffle or refreshment donations are still being accepted. Don’t forget to pass it on! Hope to see you there!
Here’s a link to my interview from today’s Stay Sane Now Show with Claudine Struck.
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