I have a program on my computer, Microsoft Photo Editor.  Lets me change pictures to make different effects.  We all have this program--in our minds.  We can take a perfectly normal picture and skew it into a negative.  Likewise, we can blur, sharpen, soften, or otherwise mar our picture--or even despeckle and posterize it.  Whatever that means.  We also have the tools--like smudge, sharpen--to alter our picture in any way we want to.  Point is, we are in control of the program.  We sometimes forget this, and believe that our pictures alter automatically.  They do not.  It is up to us to decide what we want our pictures in life to look like.  "Get Your SHINE Together!" and decide what you want your pictures to look like.